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Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity
12th July 2017|Articles

Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity

Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity

Editor’s note: the following is the seventh lesson in Younus AlGohar’s course on Self-Awareness, Level 2: Emotional Intelligence.

For better background information, read Self-Awareness, Level 1, in the Messiah Herald.

Read Self-Awareness, Level 2, Lesson 6 here.

Having studied different cases relating to our intellectual well-being and welfare, the findings have astoundingly surprised me. I conclude that the human brain is so vulnerable to becoming prey to different situations where emotions play their part, and our emotional sanity is badly affected.

What happens to our mental welfare when we strive and long for certain things but don’t get them? A sense of deprivation prevails on the surface of our emotional river. What transpires in a human brain when a person has access to all luxuries and comforts in the world?

The Sense of Achievement and Sense of Deprivation

Let’s suppose a child asks his or her parents to buy an expensive toy. Some parents are financially well-off and have so much love for their child that they buy that expensive toy for their child.

Having acquired that toy, what transpires in the faculty of the child’s emotions? What possible emotional aftermath could occur when the child’s desire is fulfilled? He must have gotten a sense of achievement.

In comparison to the child who acquired the toy of his or her desire, let’s talk about a child who had a similar desire but his or her parents were not able to afford that toy. As a result, there was a sense of deprivation felt by the child.

We have to closely monitor these two senses. What would be the impact of these two different senses on these two different children?

If this is just a single incident, whereby the child did not receive the toy from his or her parents, and when another toy is desired, it is given to the child, that initial sense of deprivation would become null and void. For the child who did acquire the expensive toy, the sense of achievement would have created this notion in his or her brain that anything is reachable. He or she begins to think, ‘I just need to say it for it to be done.’ This is where the imbalance in your emotional state occurs. 

The Duty of a Parent

Once the child acquired what he or she desired, now is the time for that sense of achievement to become null and void. Next time when the child asks for even a small toy, don’t give it to him or her. By doing this, you are actually securing his or her emotional well-being. The sense of achievement the child had developed when he or she acquired the expensive toy will go down the drain when another desired toy is not given to him or her. Their emotional sanity is restored.

If you had refused to buy a toy for your child, the sense of deprivation would strike on his or her mind; what you should do is to buy your child the toy they ask for next time, even if it is inexpensive. If you don’t do that, the sense of deprivation will have taken root in the child’s brain which is not good for his or her emotional sanity.

The sense of achievement and deprivation both go hand in hand. They are parallel to each other.

When a child is sick, the doctors tell you to give the child paracetamol – and, in intervals, give them ibuprofen. Similarly, fulfil one desire of the child and say no to the other.

Say no to one toy and say yes to the other. If you keep saying yes every time the child wishes to get something, you are actually destroying your child. If you keep saying no every time, because you think, ‘I do not have means, how can I buy anything for my child?’ this is detrimental to your child’s mental health. Even if you have to borrow some money, get your child the toy because you will be doing it for the sake of the welfare and wellbeing their emotional state.

The same goes for the adults. If you try and every time you try, you fail, this is going to have a very bad impact on your emotional sanity. 

When I was in Pakistan, a friend of mine asked me to go to China with him. So we went to the Chinese embassy. He got the visa but I was refused. Then we made a plan to visit Bangladesh. We applied for a visa. He got the visa but I was refused. I was beginning to wonder, ‘Why? What’s wrong with me?’ I didn’t really realise what was going on. Then a few months later, I applied for the British visa. When I was entering the UK embassy in Islamabad, I was so nervous and paranoid; my heart was galloping like a horse. I was denied the visa once again. At this point, my emotional sanity was disturbed.

Then, I applied for the Indian visa and I got it. You can’t imagine how happy I was! I had broken the shackles – I was on the no-go list and suddenly I got a visa. My emotional rationality and sanity was being restored. Getting the visa was one thing, but the aftermath implications of having or not having the visa was another.  If I have the visa, I will have a sense of achievement, if I don’t have it, I will have a sense of deprivation. Both are aftermath impacts. I was relieved and it restored my emotional condition.

For example, every day in your business, you are losing £1000. Suddenly, one day, you make £500. You will be amazingly happy because the losing streak has stopped. That change will make you happy – not because of the monetary benefit, but because of your emotional well-being. The sense of deprivation will be gone. The sense of achievement, when you needed it, will restore your emotional sanity.

What Affects The Emotional State?

We are living in a jungle of different types of emotions. Every action and deed is directly linked with an emotion.

Every action and deed, whether it is your deed or somebody else’s, is going to have some effect on your emotional state. For example, if you see somebody is helping the needy ones, you will have positive emotions for that person. If someone is beating up somebody for no reason and is being abusive, you will have negative emotions for them.

Everything we do will have an impact on the emotional sanity of people around us. You are the one who will make positive or negative emotions in the hearts of other people.

What you do will shape up emotions of people for you. This is the reason why some people fake what they do in order to earn positive emotions from others. In the eyes of people, they do certain things and everybody praises them but behind the scenes, something else is going on.

If the schools, colleges and universities are full, you should not expect anybody to be ignorant but even then the world is full of ignorance. Similarly, when the mosques, churches, temples and synagogues are full of worshippers, why is the world bad?

When these people are in the worship places, they are good; when they come out, they change. If they were genuinely worshipping God, they would have changed. This world would have changed.

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

It’s not just your actions. What you say is also directly linked with emotions. When you say something nice, it will please many hearts. One nasty word from you will trouble so many hearts. People will develop a sense of hatred because they cannot deny what they see and hear.

No matter what you do behind the scenes, what you do in front of people is the only thing that will create negative or positive emotions in their hearts.

People have negative emotions for you because of your bad deeds and words. People love you and praise you because of your good deeds and morality. The way you give people respect and the way you conduct yourself [will generate positive emotions in their hearts for you]. You are not emotionally intelligent if you do not realise this.

Some wounds that are caused by weapons heal quickly, but the wounds done to your heart verbally stay on the soul forever and are never healed. Make sure you are very careful with your mouth. With this one piece of meat between your jaws, you create problems for yourself.

Everything is live. People change their mind every second. You could do good things all your life and just do one bad thing will make people change their mind about you. Be careful. Nobody is your enemy. You yourself are either your friend or enemy. When you become carefree and think, ‘I will do what I want to do,’ you are actually making people hate you. You think you are powerful and you got away with what you said, but people will hate you because you are exposing yourself. If you are incapable of doing any goodness, stay the way you are, but do not fake it.

We are all closely linked to each other. Our lives are very much dependent on each other. You cannot live a solitary life. Our happiness is very much dependent on others. Emotions are the backbone of your social life. What you say and do will definitely create some kind of emotions in your heart as well as in the heart of others.

Conflict of Emotions

Do you realise that in the moment in time when you feel a sense of achievement ,somebody in front of you is touching upon the sense of deprivation?

There is a conflict of emotions between you and that person, which will create jealousy.

Day in and day out, we only care about ourselves and we hurt others. When we do this, even our family members are emotionally millions of miles away from our hearts. Sometimes we do it and we are responsible for creating this rift and sometimes they are responsible. How can you have a good relationship when emotionally you are falling apart? 

Now is the time for us to be emotionally and spiritually intelligent. We should know what it is that is good for us and what is bad for us.

In order to have a good relationship, you want to make sure that your emotions are aligned and you do what you can to create an emotional bond [with those around you]. When you do not have an emotional bond, how can you have a love bond? It is not just our own emotions – we should also be concerned about the emotions of those who live around us.

A good spiritual man is one who only begets positive emotions, who does not beget negative emotions and who does not cause any other person to beget negative emotions.

Food For Thought

Do we care about the effect of what we do and say on the people who live with us? Or the people that we are dealing with in our day-to-day lives? We also must monitor ourselves and ensure that anything we say does not affect anybody’s emotional sanity or cause them to create negative emotions in their hearts.

On the other hand, if you are doing or saying the right thing – for the benefit of humanity –  and it hurts somebody, then it is not your problem. This is because they do not care about humanity; the truth is hurting them because they care about their ego. If they did not care about their ego and actually cared about the humanity, then the truth would make them happy. Always say the right thing [no matter what].

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Representative of The Awaited One Lord Ra Riaz Gohar Shahi. Recognised as Ambassador of Peace and Man of Valour. Advocate of divine love and interfaith harmony.
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- A Messenger received Wahi (divine revelation) from God through which he establishes a complete religion; it is the name of the Messenger of a religion which is included in the Motto of Faith. After the demise of the Messenger, when the religion he established falls subject to modifications at a certain point. Then God sends down a prophet in order to reform the religion. A prophet also receives divine revelations from God called 'Sahifa' through which he reforms the modifications made in the religion. A prophet does not have his own Motto of Faith; he reforms the religion of the Messenger before him.

- The termination of Prophethood, not Messenger-hood, was announced. The religious clerics have instilled it into the minds of Muslims that if someone is a prophet, it means he has a Motto of Faith and he will establish a new religion. Whereas the job of a prophet is to reform the religion, not establish a new one. The Finality of Prophethood denotes the discontinuation of the rank of Prophethood, but not the discontinuation of the job prophets would do - that of reforming the religion. So then who will reform the modifications made in the religion now?

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- For the reformation of the previous religions, the verses that were revealed upon Prophet Mohammad are still present in the Koran today, for example, Koran 2:62.

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- Prophet Mohammad was the only prophet to do repair work in multiple religions. Simultaneously, Prophet Mohammad repaired and renewed the Jews' religion and he also renewed the Christians', Sabians' and Hindus' religions. He absolutely did. His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi said, 'Prophet Mohammad instructed his daughter, Bibi Fatima, to go and renew the Hindu religion once again.' As a Prophet, God had given Prophet Mohammad the responsibility of amending other religions; so Prophet Mohammad appointed Bibi Fatima to bless Hindus. They know her by 'Durga Maa' and 'Parvati'. When a group of Hindus came to meet His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi, HDE Gohar Shahi warmly welcomed them and told them 'There is just a slight difference between you and Muslims. The Muslims received the benevolence of ALM whereas you, the Hindus, were given benevolence from a mixture of ALM and ALR.' The benevolence HDE Gohar Shahi mentioned here was rendered to them by Bibi Fatima.

The Koran 33:49 says, 'Prophet Mohammad is not the father of any man. He is the last of the Prophets.'

Prophet Mohammad, being the last reformer for all religions, had rights upon all religions and their followers. He could marry anyone whether they were Jews, Christians, etc. without having them recite the marriage vows the Muslim way.

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'I created Jinns and human beings for my Aboodiyat (servitude).' - Koran 51:56

- Ibadat (worship with the body and soul) is part of servitude to God. Generally, the word used for worship, 'Ibadat', is used incorrectly. In Urdu, the word one should use for worship is 'Bandagi', not 'Ibadat'.

- Ibadat comes is derived from Aboodiyat. The word 'Abd' is used to refer to the combination of a man's inner and outer being; his body and his soul together. For example, Prophet Mohammad is called 'Abdahu' (Man of God) and 'Rasoolahu' (Messenger of God). 'Abdahu' means one whose body and inner faculties both come under the control of God.

This word group is used by the Devil when he says in Koran 38:82, 'I swear by your honour, I will kidnap all for except those who are yours.'

- One whose body and soul - outer and inner - become completely obedient to God will be called 'Abd'. Until your outer and inner become completely obedient to God, you will not be at the rank of Aboodiyat (servitude).

'Salat is invalid without the presence of the Spiritual Heart.' - Prophetic Tradition

- Your worship qualifies to be known as 'Ibadat' when your body and soul both are engaged in the worship of God together. The word 'Ibadat' means that you are present in the court of God inwardly and outwardly; physically and spiritually.

- Some types of worship are built-in: for example, as soon as you revive your inner faculties, they engage in the invocation of God's name and you do not have to teach them. And then there are some rituals of worship which, initially, you have to perform with your body. When your soul is newly revived, it does not have the ability to sit, stand or prostrate. So initially, you have to perform the worship physically until the soul is capable of doing it on its own.

- Once your soul is capable of performing worship independently, you are not required to perform the worship physically. However, people who reach this stage and are appointed as Spiritual Guides must engage in worship in front of people. Otherwise, people will question as to why they instruct people to offer Salat but don't do it themselves.

- So how should you worship? When you worship, make sure your body, soul and Spiritual Heart are engaged in worship. For that is when your worship will reach the rank of Aboodiyat (servitude) and will be accepted by God. And if you are reciting the Koran and performing Salat verbally only, and your soul and Spiritual Heart are not involved, then neither will you reach the rank of servitude nor will your worship be accepted by God. It won't even be worthy of being called worship.

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