Follow me

Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity
12th July 2017|Articles

Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity

Self-Awareness Level 2, Lesson 7: Emotional Sanity

Editor’s note: the following is the seventh lesson in Younus AlGohar’s course on Self-Awareness, Level 2: Emotional Intelligence.

For better background information, read Self-Awareness, Level 1, in the Messiah Herald.

Read Self-Awareness, Level 2, Lesson 6 here.

Having studied different cases relating to our intellectual well-being and welfare, the findings have astoundingly surprised me. I conclude that the human brain is so vulnerable to becoming prey to different situations where emotions play their part, and our emotional sanity is badly affected.

What happens to our mental welfare when we strive and long for certain things but don’t get them? A sense of deprivation prevails on the surface of our emotional river. What transpires in a human brain when a person has access to all luxuries and comforts in the world?

The Sense of Achievement and Sense of Deprivation

Let’s suppose a child asks his or her parents to buy an expensive toy. Some parents are financially well-off and have so much love for their child that they buy that expensive toy for their child.

Having acquired that toy, what transpires in the faculty of the child’s emotions? What possible emotional aftermath could occur when the child’s desire is fulfilled? He must have gotten a sense of achievement.

In comparison to the child who acquired the toy of his or her desire, let’s talk about a child who had a similar desire but his or her parents were not able to afford that toy. As a result, there was a sense of deprivation felt by the child.

We have to closely monitor these two senses. What would be the impact of these two different senses on these two different children?

If this is just a single incident, whereby the child did not receive the toy from his or her parents, and when another toy is desired, it is given to the child, that initial sense of deprivation would become null and void. For the child who did acquire the expensive toy, the sense of achievement would have created this notion in his or her brain that anything is reachable. He or she begins to think, ‘I just need to say it for it to be done.’ This is where the imbalance in your emotional state occurs. 

The Duty of a Parent

Once the child acquired what he or she desired, now is the time for that sense of achievement to become null and void. Next time when the child asks for even a small toy, don’t give it to him or her. By doing this, you are actually securing his or her emotional well-being. The sense of achievement the child had developed when he or she acquired the expensive toy will go down the drain when another desired toy is not given to him or her. Their emotional sanity is restored.

If you had refused to buy a toy for your child, the sense of deprivation would strike on his or her mind; what you should do is to buy your child the toy they ask for next time, even if it is inexpensive. If you don’t do that, the sense of deprivation will have taken root in the child’s brain which is not good for his or her emotional sanity.

The sense of achievement and deprivation both go hand in hand. They are parallel to each other.

When a child is sick, the doctors tell you to give the child paracetamol – and, in intervals, give them ibuprofen. Similarly, fulfil one desire of the child and say no to the other.

Say no to one toy and say yes to the other. If you keep saying yes every time the child wishes to get something, you are actually destroying your child. If you keep saying no every time, because you think, ‘I do not have means, how can I buy anything for my child?’ this is detrimental to your child’s mental health. Even if you have to borrow some money, get your child the toy because you will be doing it for the sake of the welfare and wellbeing their emotional state.

The same goes for the adults. If you try and every time you try, you fail, this is going to have a very bad impact on your emotional sanity. 

When I was in Pakistan, a friend of mine asked me to go to China with him. So we went to the Chinese embassy. He got the visa but I was refused. Then we made a plan to visit Bangladesh. We applied for a visa. He got the visa but I was refused. I was beginning to wonder, ‘Why? What’s wrong with me?’ I didn’t really realise what was going on. Then a few months later, I applied for the British visa. When I was entering the UK embassy in Islamabad, I was so nervous and paranoid; my heart was galloping like a horse. I was denied the visa once again. At this point, my emotional sanity was disturbed.

Then, I applied for the Indian visa and I got it. You can’t imagine how happy I was! I had broken the shackles – I was on the no-go list and suddenly I got a visa. My emotional rationality and sanity was being restored. Getting the visa was one thing, but the aftermath implications of having or not having the visa was another.  If I have the visa, I will have a sense of achievement, if I don’t have it, I will have a sense of deprivation. Both are aftermath impacts. I was relieved and it restored my emotional condition.

For example, every day in your business, you are losing £1000. Suddenly, one day, you make £500. You will be amazingly happy because the losing streak has stopped. That change will make you happy – not because of the monetary benefit, but because of your emotional well-being. The sense of deprivation will be gone. The sense of achievement, when you needed it, will restore your emotional sanity.

What Affects The Emotional State?

We are living in a jungle of different types of emotions. Every action and deed is directly linked with an emotion.

Every action and deed, whether it is your deed or somebody else’s, is going to have some effect on your emotional state. For example, if you see somebody is helping the needy ones, you will have positive emotions for that person. If someone is beating up somebody for no reason and is being abusive, you will have negative emotions for them.

Everything we do will have an impact on the emotional sanity of people around us. You are the one who will make positive or negative emotions in the hearts of other people.

What you do will shape up emotions of people for you. This is the reason why some people fake what they do in order to earn positive emotions from others. In the eyes of people, they do certain things and everybody praises them but behind the scenes, something else is going on.

If the schools, colleges and universities are full, you should not expect anybody to be ignorant but even then the world is full of ignorance. Similarly, when the mosques, churches, temples and synagogues are full of worshippers, why is the world bad?

When these people are in the worship places, they are good; when they come out, they change. If they were genuinely worshipping God, they would have changed. This world would have changed.

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

It’s not just your actions. What you say is also directly linked with emotions. When you say something nice, it will please many hearts. One nasty word from you will trouble so many hearts. People will develop a sense of hatred because they cannot deny what they see and hear.

No matter what you do behind the scenes, what you do in front of people is the only thing that will create negative or positive emotions in their hearts.

People have negative emotions for you because of your bad deeds and words. People love you and praise you because of your good deeds and morality. The way you give people respect and the way you conduct yourself [will generate positive emotions in their hearts for you]. You are not emotionally intelligent if you do not realise this.

Some wounds that are caused by weapons heal quickly, but the wounds done to your heart verbally stay on the soul forever and are never healed. Make sure you are very careful with your mouth. With this one piece of meat between your jaws, you create problems for yourself.

Everything is live. People change their mind every second. You could do good things all your life and just do one bad thing will make people change their mind about you. Be careful. Nobody is your enemy. You yourself are either your friend or enemy. When you become carefree and think, ‘I will do what I want to do,’ you are actually making people hate you. You think you are powerful and you got away with what you said, but people will hate you because you are exposing yourself. If you are incapable of doing any goodness, stay the way you are, but do not fake it.

We are all closely linked to each other. Our lives are very much dependent on each other. You cannot live a solitary life. Our happiness is very much dependent on others. Emotions are the backbone of your social life. What you say and do will definitely create some kind of emotions in your heart as well as in the heart of others.

Conflict of Emotions

Do you realise that in the moment in time when you feel a sense of achievement ,somebody in front of you is touching upon the sense of deprivation?

There is a conflict of emotions between you and that person, which will create jealousy.

Day in and day out, we only care about ourselves and we hurt others. When we do this, even our family members are emotionally millions of miles away from our hearts. Sometimes we do it and we are responsible for creating this rift and sometimes they are responsible. How can you have a good relationship when emotionally you are falling apart? 

Now is the time for us to be emotionally and spiritually intelligent. We should know what it is that is good for us and what is bad for us.

In order to have a good relationship, you want to make sure that your emotions are aligned and you do what you can to create an emotional bond [with those around you]. When you do not have an emotional bond, how can you have a love bond? It is not just our own emotions – we should also be concerned about the emotions of those who live around us.

A good spiritual man is one who only begets positive emotions, who does not beget negative emotions and who does not cause any other person to beget negative emotions.

Food For Thought

Do we care about the effect of what we do and say on the people who live with us? Or the people that we are dealing with in our day-to-day lives? We also must monitor ourselves and ensure that anything we say does not affect anybody’s emotional sanity or cause them to create negative emotions in their hearts.

On the other hand, if you are doing or saying the right thing – for the benefit of humanity –  and it hurts somebody, then it is not your problem. This is because they do not care about humanity; the truth is hurting them because they care about their ego. If they did not care about their ego and actually cared about the humanity, then the truth would make them happy. Always say the right thing [no matter what].

no comments
Share

Younus AlGohar

Representative of The Awaited One Lord Ra Riaz Gohar Shahi. Recognised as Ambassador of Peace and Man of Valour. Advocate of divine love and interfaith harmony.
About the Author
Younus AlGohar is the representative of The Awaited One Lord Ra Riaz Gohar Shahi. Recognised as Ambassador of Peace and Man of Valour. Advocate of divine love and interfaith harmony. London, United Kingdom.
Google+
FACEBOOK

18 hours ago

Younus AlGohar

New Video: Shab e Meraj Ki Fazeelat Kesay Hasil Ho? | By Younus AlGohar www.youtube.com/watch?v=SulxWi6cNFQ

Younus AlGohar explains how to avail the blessings of Shab-e-Mehraaj (The Night of Ascension).

Summary

- People say that in order to avail the eminence of Shab-e-Mehraaj, one must worship. However, the type of worship performed by Muslims on Shab-e-Mehraaj is no different to the worship they do every other day - so how could they attain the blessings of Shab-e-Mehraaj this way? Whereas on Shab-e-Mehraaj, the doors to all 6 higher realms are opened to the public. The doors to sacred places like Bait ul Mamour and Moqam-e-Mehmood are opened to the public. In order to take advantage of Shab-e-Mehraaj, your souls need to be enlightened and capable of a spiritual journey.

'Salat is the culmination of the Devout Believers.' - Prophetic Tradition

- God enclosed the eminence of Shab-e-Mehraaj within the Salat that you are meant to perform five times a day. Through Salat, your souls can reach the stations where Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) went physically on Shab-e-Mehraaj. Salat was given to the Nation of Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) as a gift on Shab-e-Mehraaj. You can celebrate Shab-e-Mehraaj and re-enact Shab-e-Mehraaj five times a day when you adopt the teachings of His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi and enlighten your souls. When your Salat will become your culmination, you will never miss the performance of Salat.

- You think you are just a body, but you have so many souls enclosed in you. Once you perform physical worship abundantly and manage to enlighten your souls, then your souls will perform a spiritual journey and your body can relax. The body is used temporarily for worship and fasting, but the main task of worshipping lies with the inner faculties. Then your Salat will reach God even if other people think you are not worshipping.

- Those listening to our programme may not be given a reward for worshipping by listening to me. However, perhaps they will get a clue as to how to avail the blessings and eminence of Shab-e-Mehraaj. It is a Custom of the Prophet to ascend on Shab-e-Mehraaj; therefore our souls should try to ascend in the same way that Prophet did physically. To avail the true eminence of Shab-e-Mehraaj, your souls need to reach Moqam-e-Mehmood and witness the divine splendour just as Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) did on Shab-e-Mehraaj.

-----------

Have a question for Younus AlGohar? Text your questions to us on WhatsApp: +447380315726 or Facebook messenger: m.me/alratv

Watch the live recordings of these lectures every day at 22:00 GMT at: www.younusalgohar.com

Can't access this video? Watch it on Daily Motion:
www.dailymotion.com/mehdifound...

Listen to this speech on the go with SoundCloud:
soundcloud.com/younusalgohar/Sayyidi Younus AlGohar explains how to avail the blessings of Shab-e-Mehraaj (The Night of Ascension). Summary - People say that in order to avail the eminen...
...

View on Facebook

19 hours ago

Younus AlGohar

Sufi Online with Younus AlGohar | ALRA TV | 02 April 2019
...

View on Facebook

2 days ago

Younus AlGohar

***ENABLE CC FOR ENGLISH SUBTITLES***

New Video: Apni Khoj Kesay Karen? | By Younus AlGohar www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zy5wZzmwA1g

Younus AlGohar explains how to carry out personal exploration in order to achieve the purpose of life.

Summary:

- The purpose of your life is personal exploration. God has placed many entities in the human body. If the five subtleties of the chest, as well as the soul in the head, are empowered and strengthened, they have the ability to access the six higher realms. When you embark upon this path and enlighten your spirits then your spiritual journey shall begin. You will come to believe it when you see it with your own two eyes.

'You have the disease in you but you also have the remedy in you. The entire universe is enclosed within you but you consider yourself small.' - Moula Ali

- You have to find out what realms God has given you the capability to access. You must discover the divine clues hidden in your being. You are very mysterious; such is the mystery of you that even you do not know you. Discovering yourself means to find out how far you can go and what depth of proximity has God written in your fate.

'Elevate your Self (your reality) to such heights that God asks you what you wish for before writing your fate.' - Allama Iqbal

'I am hidden beneath the veils of the Lower Self but you do not have the sight [to see me].' - Koran 51:21

- It is your job to discover whether you are able to access the Realm of Malakoot (Angels), the Realm of Jabroot (Souls) where you could go to Bait ul Mamour and perform Salat or the Realm of Wehdat (Divine Union) where you could witness the Soul of Prophet Mohammad (PBUH). You have to find out whether you are capable of standing before the Realm of Ahdiyat (Divine Oneness) and witness the divine splendour. The tools of the trade for this is spirituality.

- Today when the knowledge of spirituality has become extinct, His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi has revived it and presented it to the world and at the same time, He is granting His guardianship. There are no pledges, donations, commitments, no promises of loyalty asked of you. You can be anywhere in the world; you are not required to travel or go to the jungle. You don't have to pay any fees or spend any money. You watch us on YouTube or Facebook Live from the comfort of your own home and you obtain the teachings of HDE Gohar Shahi. You are required to do absolutely nothing and the divine secrets which were unexposed even in the eras of the Prophets are revealed to you. This world has never been blessed by such an era as today!

-----------

Have a question for Younus AlGohar? Text your questions to us on WhatsApp: +447380315726 or Facebook messenger: m.me/alratv

Watch the live recordings of these lectures every day at 22:00 GMT at: www.younusalgohar.com

Can't access this video? Watch it on Daily Motion:
www.dailymotion.com/mehdifound...

Listen to this speech on the go with SoundCloud:
soundcloud.com/younusalgohar/*** ENABLE CC FOR ENGLISH SUBTITLES *** Sayyidi Younus AlGohar explains how to carry out personal exploration in order to achieve the purpose of life. Summar...
...

View on Facebook